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Stop Blaming White People
12:52 PM on October 16, 2008

It is time for Black People to stop blaming others for our issues and start being accountable and responsible for our situation. I am tired of hearing about how the ‘man/society’ keeps holding us down, and how the ‘man/society’ does not want us to have anything.

An ex-offender recently told me that he lost his job because the transit system in his area changed the bus schedule which resulted in him being late every day for work. His employer did not give him a break because the new schedules made it difficult for him to get to work on time. I sat there in amazement as he found every reason why other people or organizations were responsible for his predicament. By the way, he ended up going back to jail later that night for joy riding without a license. It must have been the cops fault for arresting him. The man/society did not make you choose to: sell dope, sell your body, drop out of school, steal, kill, join the gang, live where you live, have a baby at a young age, and so on and so on. You made that choice. If you can choose to do these things, then choose to take control of your life. At some point you have got to step up, if your life is important to you. I look forward to hearing your thoughts.



Comments (2)
Donovan - 7:11 AM on October 28, 2008  [ message ]
Mya, first I want to commend you for being a responsible parent and young woman. I do not agree that we know what the problems are. Far too often I hear black people blaming 'the man', 'the system', or white people for their/our issues. Let me state for the record. Racism Exists. Now with that said; governmental agencies and programs exists to help people in time of need. Your example is a great one. You worked, made your contributions and when you needed help there were programs there to assist you. That is how it is supposed to work. I don't have an issue with that, I do have an issue with families where generation after generation after generation make themselves dependent on the system, and they never get off of the system. I am sure that we all know people like this. Think about it. Here is where my grandmother succeeded: she raised a young woman who made decisions, some that you will agree with and some you might not, and she held herself accountable and responsible for those decisions. She didn't blame anyone else for the decisions she made. I am 110% for solutions. There are alot of programs out there that are intended to be the solutions. They either don't work, are under utilized, are not known, or people don't want to commit to the requirements. To truly fix the problem, we have to know what it is, what the root causes are, acknowledge our role in it, and commit to working on changing it.
loana2b - 8:37 PM on October 27, 2008  [ message ]
hi my name is mya i am the daughter of loana2b i was sitting here watching your video today and a few things stood out to me. now the man name mr. Donovan said something about his mother not wanting to use the system to help raise her kids. i am a young mother im 20 yrs old and i have worked since the age of 13 by choice. and when i recently got pregnant i went to the system for help i find nothing wrong with going to the system for help. i feel since i worked so long and every time i looked at my check and the government took there money and every year i had to file my taxes i feel i am very eligible to use the government for assistants. and in the black community who ever agree to having bill cosby being a spokes man to follow. there is a lot of things that he did as man not putting his business out there that i truly disagree with i feel that he is not a good example to the black men in our community showing them how to treat there families. and just because you see kids out here doing something wrong doesn't mean that there parents are not training them right. some kids are influence by there peers and some kids experiment. i feel if mr. donovan can be very understanding to his mother having 6 kids and 4 different fathers and not wanting to use the system. he should be understanding to some of the kids who are going through trials. he should not judge parents just because there kids are into trouble or having kids at a young age. because if i was to feel that a parent is always the reason then i would have to say that his grandmother is to blame for his mother having 6 kids and 4 different fathers. but i do agree with tony owens you do have to find the solution because the kids already know the problem